This Valentine’s Day, Sexy Is For Every Body

February 14, 2016 11 Comments

This Valentine’s Day, Sexy Is For Every Body

February 14, 2016 11 Comments

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Sexy is for every body // Fatgirlflow.com

It’s that time of year, you beautiful babes!!! Happy Valentine’s Day!!! Love is in the air, chocolates are on the shelves, and we’re being inundated with ads all about looking hot for someone else. And what do those ads have in them? A bunch of people who’s bodies look nothing like my own (and probably not yours either). I see the scramble to find plus size lingerie all over my social media the weeks leading up to this day, while my TV lights up with Victoria’s Secret ads.

Leaving fat people out of the Valentine’s Day media extravaganza is yet another example of our culture’s insistence that fat people are less human than our thin counterparts. Not having access to things like cute clothes and lingerie is not just an inconvenience, it’s dehumanizing. Every time I walk into a store and the sizes end at a large, I’m reminded that my body has been deemed unacceptable.

The most painful part of this reminder is not that I can’t wear cute clothes, but that people don’t believe I experience relationships and love like every other person. Leaving my body out on Valentine’s Day is just another way to tell me that I don’t deserve love from both other people, and myself.

So how do we combat these messages that we aren’t welcome to love ourselves? Well, representation, of course! We’ve talked about it before, and it continues to be essential to our existence as fat people. This week even Lane Bryant, a company that is supposed to be here for their plus size customers, released a media campaign with the hashtag #thisbody. The campaign is all about embracing your body. Laughably, the images they chose to use were all of smaller (on the plus spectrum) models who were conventionally attractive. We can’t even get representation when we’re literally paying for it. But I know that it’s out there. I know because I see beautiful plus size bodies every day when I log onto my social media. I see people like myself that are unapologetically loving themselves and their bodies. Our community of fat people is made up of insightful, loving, and powerful voices. We deserve to be heard, and we deserve to be seen.

Perhaps today, when we are supposed to be celebrating the love we share with others, the most important love we can be reminded of is the love we have for ourselves. No matter where you are in your self-love journey, you get to experience love, from both yourself and others. You get to celebrate your body. You get to glorify feeling and being sexy. You get to rock the hell out of every hot outfit you can find. Most importantly, you get to say “my body is worth every ounce of love it receives!” and believe it whole heartedly.

This isn’t about getting validation from other’s for our bodies. This isn’t about demanding that we are perceived as sexy. This is about showing the world that we already have those things. That we experience love from others and ourselves every day. We exist, and we live happy full lives, and our bodies deserve to be part of the conversation. We are whole. We are not an afterthought, or someone’s work in progress.  We are perfect. Just as we are, in this moment. This Valentine’s Day, sexy is for every body. And we’re celebrating that shit.

Brianna | IG: @fatalina_winemixer
Brianna | IG: @fatalina_winemixer
Larkin shot by Kelsey Kimberlin |KelseyKimberlin.com
Larkin shot by Kelsey Kimberlin |KelseyKimberlin.com
Angelina Duplisea
Angelina Duplisea | IG: @anactingangel
Hannah S // iaintafraidofnoghosts.tumblr.com
Hannah S | iaintafraidofnoghosts.tumblr.com
Caids | IG: @damnafricaxo
Caids | IG: @damnafricaxo
Ash | ig: ashhhsmashhh
Ash | ig: ashhhsmashhh
Alysse Dalessandro | @ReadyToStare | www.readytostare.com
Alysse Dalessandro | @ReadyToStare | www.readytostare.com
Chimaera Gray | IG: @chimaeragray
Chimaera Gray | IG: @chimaeragray
Tyra Epps | Facebook.com/abundantbodies
Tyra Epps | Facebook.com/abundantbodies
Cherie Cheezcake | www.nakednerdy.com​
Cherie Cheezcake | www.nakednerdy.com​
Jamie Lopez CEO and owner of babydoll beauty couture salon in Winnetka ca | www.babydollcoutureglam.com
Jamie Lopez CEO and owner of babydoll beauty couture salon in Winnetka ca | www.babydollcoutureglam.com
Jessi | IG: @mysupersizedlife
Jessi | IG: @mysupersizedlife
Crystal | IG: @crystalizedessence | Crystalizedessence.tumblr.com
Crystal | IG: @crystalizedessence | Crystalizedessence.tumblr.com
Jen McLellan | Plus Size Mommy Memoirs http://plussizebirth.com/blog/psmmblog/
Jen McLellan | Plus Size Mommy
Memoirs http://plussizebirth.com/blog/psmmblog/
IG: @esoteric.zephyr
IG: @esoteric.zephyr
Ash | https://m.facebook.com/ash.katchum.94
Ash | https://m.facebook.com/ash.katchum.94
Mandy | IG: @Mandyoh
Mandy | IG: @Mandyoh
Jackie | pardonmewhileipanic.tumblr.com
Jackie | pardonmewhileipanic.tumblr.com
Saucye West | IG: @saucyewest | Photography by DANEA Burleson Boudoir Coterie
Saucye West | IG: @saucyewest | Photography by DANEA Burleson Boudoir Coterie
Leah | IG: @LeahDali
Leah | IG: @LeahDali
Amanda | CosmicCupid.tumblr.com
Amanda | CosmicCupid.tumblr.com
Hephzibah Ochoa | IG: @Heppie2000
Hephzibah Ochoa | IG: @Heppie2000
Kanda Mbenza-Ngoma for ChubbyCartwheels.com | IG: @kmbenzangoma
Jenny Lee | IG: @dovahkhaleesi | unskinny.tumblr.com
Jenny Lee | IG: @dovahkhaleesi | unskinny.tumblr.com
Sarah Anne | IG: @tonsablush | Youtube.com/bighipsredlips
Sarah Anne | IG: @tonsablush | Youtube.com/bighipsredlips
Kelsie | brazenfemme.tumblr.com
Kelsie | brazenfemme.tumblr.com
Chrystal Bougon | www.curvygirlinc.com
Chrystal Bougon | www.curvygirlinc.com
Samantha | angstiosis.tumblr.com
Samantha | angstiosis.tumblr.com
Ashlee Brioné | IG: @srryms.jacksonooh
Ashlee Brioné | IG: @srryms.jacksonooh

 

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11 Comments

  • Jodi February 14, 2016 at 8:25 pm

    These are so lovely, You all look so positive and self loved. Absolutely the best thing that I saw today,

  • DaniJ February 15, 2016 at 12:28 am

    Yay! I know so many of these beautiful ladies. Makes me even more confident to be myself.

  • Sherry Harris February 15, 2016 at 6:57 am

    Wonderful!!! You are all so beautiful. Thank you so much for showing everyone that sexy is in everyone.

  • Annette Billings February 15, 2016 at 3:45 pm

    I’m weeping–for wonderful reasons. Thank you, gorgeous women!

  • Ruby Thunder February 15, 2016 at 11:50 pm

    This is such an amazing and uplifting post. You hit the nail on the head everytime. I will never tire of seeing real, actual fat people neiong happy and loving themselves. I’m so grateful to you all for being out there.

    • fatgirlflow February 16, 2016 at 12:06 am

      I’m grateful for YOU!!!!! <3

  • Jen February 16, 2016 at 2:43 am

    Lovely. Thanks for sharing now I feel included.

  • Rachel R. February 16, 2016 at 8:37 am

    *applauding wildly*

  • Brandie-Nicole February 16, 2016 at 2:32 pm

    Gave me confidence. Always being the fat girl with friends…my smile always saved me. We are beautiful…every pound, every roll and every dimple…blessed.

  • natalia March 22, 2016 at 2:22 pm

    lovely ladies , great job just beautiful

  • Cherie Cheezcake April 14, 2016 at 9:47 am

    THANK YOU FOR FEATURING ME! Just casually scrolling down and seeing your body featured with a bunch of babes is a great way to start the day. <3

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