June 23, 2015 18 Comments


June 23, 2015 18 Comments

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Why do I keep seeing the exact same bodies being celebrated in the plus size community???

I’ve been a part of the fat community for about 5 years now (though I have been fat much longer than that), and one thing I am certain of is that this community is shaped by a very wide variety of individuals. Our community is awesome, and one of my favorite things about it is that there are so many intersections within it. Being fat is not exclusive to one gender, sexual orientation, or race, and it doesn’t discriminate based on your physical or mental capacities. Being fat is something people across cultures can experience, and even people who are not fat can identify with body image issues. So why do we frequently see the same body shape and size celebrated in plus size fashion??? You know what I’m talking about (but if you don’t I’ll clear it up): white, under 30, on the smaller side of fat, able bodied, and evenly proportioned.

So how does that effect people who don’t see bodies like their own? The world tells us to love our bodies and to be confident, and we’ll finally have the body image we’ve dreamed of. But how are we supposed to know that we are worthy of love and a positive body image when it doesn’t even seem like our existence is acknowledged? Recently I wrote a post called “Clothing For Size 28+“. The post got an

overwhelming amount of people who told me that I “should add Forever 21+ to the list”. People really didn’t know that 3x does not serve as the final destination on the fat journey! People come in bigger sizes than 28 and they don’t have options like Forever 21! There is such a huge amount of diversity in the plus size community that goes unnoticed, even by the people we share the community with.

We know that we won’t find much representation in the mainstream media, so we turn to places like social media to find people who we connect with. But the impacts of mainstream media are pervasive, and when people see certain bodies touted as “good” day in and day out, it’s difficult for them to find value in a body that they’ve never even been exposed to. Even on social media, we see a trend toward certain bodies being more celebrated than others. So the question is how do we create representation for people? Well, we create spaces to say “THESE BODIES EXIST AND THEY ARE AMAZING!”. The fat community (namely people who are well represented already) must make space for the varied individuals that don’t get the spotlight often enough. It’s up to all of us to question why we may or may not think certain fat bodies are more acceptable than others. Just because we’re fat positive doesn’t mean we are exempt from toxic views. We have to continue to push ourselves to challenge the discrimination within our own community.

This post is for every fat babe who has felt under represented in the community because of the color of their skin, the size or shape of their body, their ability, or their gender. For the beauties with huge bellies and tiny legs, and the babes who can’t find their size even in the plus size section, it’s for the hairy babes, for the double chins and double bellies. Because seeing plus size bodies that don’t show much variation from European beauty standards isn’t giving a lot of us the representation we need to feel like our bodies, our beauty, and loving ourselves, is valid. The diversity in this community is endless, and it’s our responsibility to make sure that all bodies are represented and celebrated. There’s a lot of room for improvement, even in this post, but the people in our community deserve our very best efforts. They are worthy of representation. We all are.

Plus Size Swimwear Representation | Fatgirlflow.com
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Eve // twitter
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Crystal Newton facebook
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Kelly Lynn // facebook
Plus size babes | fatgirlflow.com
Brianna // IG Fatalina_winemixer
Plus Size Swimwear Representation | Fatgirlflow.com
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Lauren Crow // laurencrow.carbonmade.com IG: 4locrow
Brei //kurvyetiquette.blogspot.com// facebook.com/kurvyetiquette
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IG: Ashhhsmashhh
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IG: Laureldickman for #wearyourvoicemag & #fuckfatphobia
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Monica Lizama // IG: monicalvz
Diversity In Plus Size Bodies // Fatgirlflow.com
Angelina Duplisea // IG: AnActingAngel
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Alysse Dalessandro // www.readytostare.com // IG: readytostare
We Exist! Diversity in Plus Size Bodies // Fatgirlflow.com
Desiny N // Chocolateist.tumblr.com // IG Chocolateist
Heather Albright Tumblr/IG: overcomethisworldwithlove
Heather Albright // IG: overcomethisworldwithlove
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www.psitsfashion.com // IG: TheLizBlack
Shanie <3
Shanie // facebook
We Exist! Diversity in Plus Size Bodies // Fatgirlflow.com
<3, Yours Truly

*For more info on where to shop for swimwear check out this post!




  • breian June 24, 2015 at 11:07 pm

    Loved it. I have been listening to women scream this same sentiment so much these past few months. Thank you for your voice. It’s needed.

    • fatgirlflow June 24, 2015 at 11:44 pm

      Thank you so much, Brei. Your participation was awesome and I’m so glad I got to “meet” you!!!

  • Ginger June 25, 2015 at 2:36 am

    Thank you for this perfect, amazing, spectacular post! To love and respect my body as it is is a lesson I am still struggling to learn, and it’s people like you that reaffirm this for me! All bodies are good bodies!!!! Never, ever stop doing what you do!

    • fatgirlflow June 25, 2015 at 3:04 am

      thank you so much Ginger!!!! xoxo it’s people like you who reaffirm everything I’m doing on here and i appreciate you so so much!!!!! <3

  • Mariah June 28, 2015 at 5:19 am

    I’m really looking for a cute high wasted bikini, but with a skirt style??

    • fatgirlflow June 28, 2015 at 2:59 pm

      Hi Mariah!!! Check out my post about Plus size swimwear in the sidebar! There’s some really great ones on there!!!! <3

  • Edilma França dos Santos Souto July 3, 2015 at 11:18 am

    Estou feliz por vocês, gostei das fotos, acho que devemos nos aceitar do jeito que somos. Se aceitar é essencial.

    • Edilma França dos Santos Souto July 3, 2015 at 11:19 am

      As fotografias me encorajou a me aceitar, a colocar um maiô na praia.

  • Lauren July 7, 2015 at 2:00 am
  • Kristian July 7, 2015 at 5:46 pm

    I love this article:0) During bathing suit season, I get bashful, but not anymore after seeing this. Thanks for the inspiration.

  • Victoria July 7, 2015 at 9:07 pm

    Thank you so much for all your positive posts I wish I had half the confidence you have! You go girl

  • sheree millington July 8, 2015 at 10:06 am

    It’s the same in all media, not just plus sized. There’s not enough diversity full. stop. Great post. x

  • Gen July 9, 2015 at 1:03 am

    I’ve only just heard about this post, but if it’s ok, I’m including a link to one of my FB photos, in my bikini. I’m 41, a mom of 2 daughters, 18 and 21. We all 3 perform at our state’s renaissance festival, my younger daughter is looking to get into clowning, freak show and dark cabaret. My older (also plus sized) daughter just landed a supporting role in an independent horror film. Fat people exist. We don’t get a pause button that allows us to hide in our houses till we’re adequately desirable to the troll factions online who want to shame us. We KNOW we’re fat. We KNOW it isn’t great for our health. We also know it isn’t always as simple as diet and exercise. We may have disabilities weight related or not, that impact our ability to do more. We have all different economic realities. It’s pretty hard to eat healthy food when all you can afford is highly processed muck full of fat, carbs, and salt. We’re still human, we still deserve kindness and compassion. We deserve to feel good about ourselves. We deserve to enjoy our ‘now’ as much as anyone else. And you know what? Even fat, even middle aged, even with all my limitations, I feel pretty good. and I have people who desire me. Not just my fiance, either >.^b So, here’s a link to a hot mama who wants to be part of this lovely parade! https://www.facebook.com/photo.php?fbid=10152812833425994&set=pb.681655993.-2207520000.1436403687.&type=3&theater

  • malu July 9, 2015 at 9:19 am

    Its very nice to see how happy all these fuller figures ladies are with their bodies. I came here via a website that was toally against it, saying promoting obesitas is the same as promoting pro-anorexia websites. I am not plussize at all but I still enjoyed reading your article! 🙂
    The Stylish Confessions | Fashion & Beauty blog

  • Chanda July 11, 2015 at 1:08 am

    I would love to share some pics! Just tell me how! This is awesome!

  • michael fisher October 12, 2015 at 6:08 am

    “I’m so glad You are bringing out the Best of yourselves.”

  • LaChen April 14, 2016 at 10:30 pm

    I came across this from Pinterest and I must say that I am super proud of all those FLY GIRLS in their swim suits! YOU GO GIRLS! I will continue to follow this site for inspiration!

  • Chloe Polston July 10, 2016 at 6:17 am

    This entire page has really aided in my confidence boost! I’m 19 now, and I haven’t worn a bikini since I was about 5, and even that was a tankini! But enough! I’m treating myself to a fly as bikini, and showing off who I really am on my upcoming beach holiday! Thank you!

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