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  1. Thank you for sharing your fatshion and body positivity journey like this! I love having you as an example 🙂

    I’m back to struggling with food. Medically, I need to eat a very low sodium diet. I’m doing a /great/ job of it, despite it poking me in all the food issues. Thankfully I have lots of support with this, including roommates who will notice and say something if I stop eating.

    With fashion, I struggle with spending time or money on clothes if I don’t “need” them. I sew, and I can afford ready-to-wear clothes, but I’m so deep-down convinced that I don’t “deserve” cute outfits that aren’t for work I can’t bring myself to buy or make them. I realized recently that “too worn out to wear to the office” and “what I wear on the weekends” have become the same thing in my wardrobe. This is, clearly, not cool. Keeping the ratty dress for deep-cleaning the oven is one thing – only wearing ratty outfits unless I’m going to work is nuts. When I see a cute dress, I just can’t bring myself to buy it if it’s not something I’d wear to work. I’ve even resisted buying or making clothes just for bellydance class. “Since you can’t perform, there’s no point in wasting the time/money,” says the part of my brain that doesn’t like me. Nevertheless, I persist!

    1. Oh babe!!! Those struggles are something I’m so so familiar with. The food thing is so tough, do you ever read thefuckitdiet.com? They are an amazing resource for food struggles! You are SO WORTHY of getting new cute things!!!! <3 Keep persisting, love bug <3

  2. I always love the way you look you make me feel like if she looks that cute in something i must to!!! My big issue right now is age im a mom and i will be 35 this year i love fashion silver jeans are my fav torrid lovesick but im worried im getting to old for these sights im not worried about looking like a mom im worried whats beyond that and people not thinking i have a right to want to have fun stylish fashions its hard enough being plus sized and being judged but now i find my self worrying more about a few grey roots while trying to rock a pair of ripped up boyfriend jeans and fun accsessories then ido my weight i feel like there will always be judgment in the world of a female when does it ever end!!!!

    1. You’re probably right, and that’s an even better reason for us to not care what people think! You have so much time to express yourself through fashion if you so choose I say wear what you want!!!! <3

  3. First time here and I will be back to read more. . . I am an older gal and I love fashion just like when I was 20, but some items at F21 are just not my style, so I rarely shop there. But, you can catch me in some trendy clothes and even a crop top now and again. If you feel good in your clothes you will look good, no matter your age or size! Thanks for this post.

  4. Not sure where else to put all this (instragram? youtube?) but anyway, here goes: THANK YOU, AND BLESS YOU, AND SO ON.

    Truly, though. I’ve intellectualized body-positivity for a long time, go me (?), but connecting with these truths emotionally has been a much harder battle for me. Knowing I shouldn’t be ashamed of my fat body, understanding the oppressive systems and power relations behind so much of why women with fat bodies (and all bodies outside the ‘acceptable’ norms, all genders, etc) are meant to be ashamed didn’t stop me from FEELING, deep down, that I was less because I was fat. It didn’t stop me from believing, underneath my well developed intersectional feminist shell, that I had to try to make myself acceptable with the right kind of flattering clothes, that I had to make up for my body by being extra smart, extra kind, extra everything in hopes I’d somehow get a pass on the being fat thing.

    Finding your instagram, youtube, and blog has changed a lot for me. Connecting with this movement online, seeing so many different bodies represented and seeing people who LOVE themselves has made me feel it. It’s made me want to be loud and to fight, and it’s made me proud of myself and my body, and that’s goddamn life changing. You helped inspire that in me, made it real inside in a new way. Your activism and humour and kindness has done wonders. Your video on diet culture shook something loose, I’ve felt lighter, braver, and happier with myself and what I’ve worked hard to believe and undo in my own thinking than I have likely ever. So thank you. From the bottom of my fat heart <3

  5. I just found your site today, and I’m binge-reading everything. I love it! Thank you so much for sharing your style with the world!

    I’m not just fat, I’m also really tall, so finding clothes that fit properly was horrible until just a couple years ago. I’m thankful for online retailers with extended sizes. I’m turning 35 in a couple months, and I think I’ve pretty much accepted my body is big and that’s all there is to it. I try to keep things in perspective, I mean I’m healthy, happy, and (relatively) prosperous. I’m luckier than most people on the planet that are worried about the next meal for their kids and having any clothes at all to cover their bodies and sometimes not even somewhere to sleep at night. It makes stressing about being fat feel really dumb. But I’m human, and every so often I get wistful about being thinner, but I find I do that less if I’m dressing in a way that makes me feel beautiful. I’m glad I found your blog so I can get some more ideas!

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