Becoming A Bra-less Goddess

February 21, 2016 16 Comments

Becoming A Bra-less Goddess

February 21, 2016 16 Comments

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Yeah, you read that right. I’m not wearing a bra. Like… ever. Or at least, I’m working on it. I’ve been working from home for nearly a year now and my lifestyle has changed a little bit. My morning routine no longer includes strapping my boobs to my body for 12 hours of fabric-cutting-into-my-back-fat hell. I’ve found myself slowly leaving my bra off when going to breakfast with my bestie, or while taking trips to the store with my husband. It was a gradual process with a few sports bras, and bra top camis along the way. Then I saw a video by my friend Sophie that really sealed the deal for me.

Though I’ve been avoiding bras in my personal life, I haven’t quite taken the leap on my blog… until now. When I got a little package from I did my normal little YouTube unboxing thing (you can watch the video below). I was wearing a tank top with a kind of cami bra thing built into it while trying on the clothes. I was nervous because I knew that the clothes I had purchased were all pretty form fitting, and I haven’t done many YouTube videos in my natural braless state. While editing the video, I realized that I absolutely LOVED how my body looked while trying on my new outfits. Ok, so part of that is just that I got some really stinking cute clothes from Gs Love, but another part of that was seeing myself on video the way I see myself in every day life. I loved it, and I decided to take the leap and do a blog photo shoot sans bra.

Honestly, this white dress was made for this adventure. It screams “bra-less earth Goddess”, and the silhouette is just a dream. I have never worn an all white full length dress (nope, not even on my wedding day!), and there is definitely something special and empowering about going out in such a stand-out piece. I just felt really really beautiful with this white plus size dress draped over my totally natural form. It was freeing.

I’ve been scared of not wearing a bra for a long time. My breasts are on the large side, but the real hangup was that they aren’t exactly “perky”. My nipples don’t point forward, ya’ll. And maybe that would be ok, but I’ve also got what I would call intrusive nipples. You can see them at all times. All. Times. There’s no hiding them, especially not in all white. But damn it, that’s my body! And it makes me feel good to accept and love my body so much that I’m cool with people knowing that I don’t have some magically lifted double D breasts with nipples that point to heaven. I am ok with that! Because that’s what some bodies look like! For too long, I’ve felt like being fat meant I had to make sure nobody saw what my body really looks like, and I’m just done with that. This is what my body looks like. All of my body. And I love it!

Dress – GsLove
Bag – Similar

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  • Demik February 22, 2016 at 3:22 am

    I love this dress on you. I can’t find it on the site. Is their a name or item number for it?

    • fatgirlflow February 23, 2016 at 3:42 am

      it sold out shortly after this was posted 🙁

      • Brittany Furr March 4, 2016 at 9:27 am

        You model this piece so well the store couldn’t handle the demand.

  • Sarah February 23, 2016 at 6:09 pm

    I’ve been thinking about this topic since you posted about free-boobin’ a while ago. I definitely couldn’t do it for work, but I played around in my free time. I wear a 44DDD and I wear a bra from about 30 minutes after I wake up until I go to bed 17 hours later. So I went braless in my apartment immediately after work. I didn’t mind it so much at first but as I did it more and more after work, I started having back pain. And weird pain in the section of my belly right under my boobs. As soon as I put a bra on, the pain went away. I’m not sure if it’s just my huge boobs, or my posture when I’m not wearing a bra, or what. I’m curious to know if anyone else has experienced this.

    My other concern is just dealing with random men on the street. I hate getting catcalled and comments from strangers, and I’m afraid it would happen much more if I just let my boobs fly free. Yet I also don’t think I should have to dress a certain way (or wear a bra) to be treated with respect while I walk down the street. I guess I’m realizing there are some deeper psychological issues at hand for me at least.

    • fatgirlflow February 24, 2016 at 2:22 am

      These are such valid questions. First, I think that everyone’s body is different, so while it may be most comfy for me to NOT wear a bra, I wouldn’t expect that it is for everyone. As for cat calling… today in chipotle the guy helping me was staring right at my nipples (that never hide btw) and I thought “well.. that’s annoying as hell” and wondered if I would rather be wearing a bra??!?!

  • tasha3jc February 25, 2016 at 8:49 am

    First I have to say I am a new follower and just found you on youtube tonight and i have been sitting at my computer for the past 5 hours watching all your videos. I love your personality and all your videos and how much self confidence you have. lol that being said I got huge boobs any where from a h to j depending on the bra and I hate wearing a bra, I am a stay at home mom and I never put a bra on till I have to go get my kids from school, and if I leave the house to go some place. I have always been larger chested and up until the past about 5 years I wore a bra every day all day even when I slept. Now I just cant stand it. Yay you for going braless lol if mine where not so big I so would . Not to mention it cost a small fortune to buy bras for my size and they are never cute!

    • fatgirlflow February 25, 2016 at 8:57 pm

      They are SOOOO expensive!!!! I can get a whole outfit forthe cost of a bra!!!! Thanks for all the youtube love <3

  • Jen February 25, 2016 at 12:29 pm

    So lovely. And you are so stunning in form fitting flowing dresses. You make me want to wear white. I have this thing against white clothes. I even want a wedding dress that isn’t totally cloudy white. Anywho I am very heavy chested on top of being bottom heaven ;. I carry it all cup wise. I’m a 36 but it’s all up from there. No they do not make bras that are Camis like or a triangle bras that I love in a uk k cup (I have no idea the American equivalent ) but if they did free I would be. Lol and perky nah not even I think after a certian size if they are real they Aren’t perky lol.

  • Dawn March 8, 2016 at 5:22 am

    I wish I could go bra-less but my breasts are very saggy, not very symmetrical, and my nipples point straight down. A bra is the only hope I have of looking “normal” in my clothing. ):

    • fatgirlflow March 8, 2016 at 4:10 pm

      mine are also saggy and point straight down… I’m hoping that if enough people stop wearing bras we can normalize the fact that boobs come in all shapes and sizes. Unfortunately the media is a strong force.

  • Wendy March 26, 2016 at 8:48 pm

    I think you’re white me 🙂 because I’m all about being a hippie and am ready for summer so much! I just want your whole haul (although I’m an apple shape and cannot pull off crop tops and the stomach certainly isn’t gonna show, too pale). I dig that you’re rocking bralettes but honestly, I’m so top heavy and don;t have hips or butt (defective black girl) so the girls are the only thing bringing home the girly look. I basically plan to stalk you now and get fashion tips!

  • Jackie April 29, 2016 at 2:11 am

    Love your confidence! I used to be teased a lot as a child but becuase im very thin. I am 30 years old now still very skinny and have tiny boobs but I have learnt to love myself afterall God made us all different. I also battle to find bras as even a size A gapes open and I cant go braless I need to wear padded bras that I stuff just to fake a bit of cleavage. Jeans always fit saggy looks like im wearing a diaper. And I wish I had more curves but my metabolism is very fast so eventhough I eat alot I burn it again. I think you inspire all types of woman just to love themselves and be happy with who they are.

  • Kesha May 17, 2016 at 11:39 pm

    Hello, I love your videos. I’m curious about the pink crop top maxi dress. I couldn’t find it on the site, what category would that be under?

    • fatgirlflow May 18, 2016 at 9:18 am

      It’s sold out :(((( Some times they restock it I’m sorry!

  • Vannessa. Genzel November 16, 2016 at 7:46 am

    Please, let me know , if you make custom made bras I wear 48 – 50 G, H, I like an underwire bras,
    Also do you make full slips .
    You’ll could be a life saver.
    Vannessa Genzel Home phone. 214-828-0614

  • Vannessa. Genzel November 16, 2016 at 7:52 am

    Please, let me know if you don’t make custom made bra’s
    Could you please tell me who does I am in Dallas, Texas
    I have went to Maddox Bra shop but they add another set of hooks, which is a mess.

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