Gratitude
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I hadn't planned on sharing these photos this weekend, but that beautiful man making me smile was sick most of the week and I was testing out my ability to do that whole "in sickness and in health" thing. It turns out, I will do just about anything for my partner, even face down some of my bigger fears (including but not limited to: vomiting and hospitals). It's made me feel incredibly grateful for a lot of things, including him.
Our wedding was really magical. Not in the way that maybe some people dream of, but in the most perfect way for Nate and I. Our immediate families and close friends gathered, and we got to tell everyone that we were thankful. We got to tell them that our love is only possible through the environment of support and care that they provide. We got to express to the people who have got us here, that what they have done for us is remembered and cherished through our partnership. And we got to give a little bit of that love back that day. It was pretty unreal.
Today, in the middle of all the chaos that life can bring, I think back to this day, these moments. For one amazing day everything fell away and we got to just love. Without interruption. We got to be present with one another and the people we love. Today I'm reminding myself that day did not happen by chance, it happened because of all the moments we built before that. It happened because of the chaos that is always made a bit easier by having one another. It happened because together, we learned how to lean into the chaos, which made it possible to lean into the happiness. We let life happen, and we decided to take our moments as they come, without judgement.
I didn't know what I was going to write about when I posted these pictures. It turns out all I got are all these feelings about what a good thing we've got going, and I'm just feeling really grateful that we have one another. That's all I've got for now.
Photography: Hallie Sigwing Photography
Hair: Hallie O'Brock // Salon Di'Marco
Dress: Modcloth
Bouquet: fresh picked by my dear friend Kate
*I will post more wedding photos in the weeks following Thanksgiving, including a post about how to have a backyard budget wedding
I long for the day when people will have no qualifier....not fat, skinny, black, brown, disabled, etc. Just people. You were/are a beautiful bride. Beautiful is all the qualifier any person needs. Blessings.
A lot of people, including myself, take pride in their qualifiers. I hope there is never a day when I don't use them. I love them and what they represent: all the people who fought to be humanized while proudly proclaiming who they are, shouting their qualifiers from rooftops. They are part of me. I wear mine like a badge of honor.
I very much identify with my qualifiers as well. This post definitely wasn't about forgetting my qualifiers. I actually changed the line about writing about being a fat bride because I realized it lead people to believe I was negating that part of myself. <3
I grew up in the era of MLK...and love the idea of everone being known not for their color(size race,gender,religion,etc.)but the content of their heart. As a 60+ yr old fat girl, I applaud you all for your courage to spit in the eye of popular culture! No diss intended.
I could not have put it more eloquently. Great post!
You look breathtaking. Your happiness is like a glow around you, you radiate.
thank you so much Ruby <3 <3 <3
You look beautiful; your dress, make up, hair etc is all incredible. What I love most about these photos though is that you are radiating love and happiness, and that is so heartwarming. Congratulations to you both x
Thank you SO MUCH Georgia <3
Watching you two get married on periscope was truly such an honour and I bawled my eyes on from the second I saw you in your dress. You are both so incredibly perfect for one another!
i love you <3
Love these pics, you two look amazing and so happy! I also love seeing other fat couples (I'm half of one too 🙂 )...welcome to the club!! Congrats to you both and here's to being fat and married happily ever after!!!
THANK YOU SO SO MUCH!!!!!
Congratulations!!!!! You both are beautiful and damn that flower bouquet is so pretty, your friend Kate definitely had a talent 😀
thank you!!!