MY FEAR OF FANCY CLOTHES

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Plus Size Shirtdress by Eshakti || Fatgirlflow.com

Plus Size Shirtdress by Eshakti || Fatgirlflow.com

Plus Size Shirtdress by Eshakti || Fatgirlflow.com

Plus Size Shirtdress by Eshakti || Fatgirlflow.com

At some point, someone made me feel shitty for wanting to dress fancy. I’m not sure when it was (though I’m guessing it was likely around age 13), and I don’t know who did it (solid guess would be a 13 year old boy), but I have a full on fear of wearing fancy clothes. I used to think that the fear was because I just didn’t want anyone to ask me why i was dressed up. I thought I just wanted to be left alone, unbothered by inquiring minds. What I realized was that the reason I avoided dressing up was a bit more serious than not wanting to make small talk with strangers.

I didn’t want anyone to notice me.

Now, you’d think that someone like myself who is drowning in pictures of her outfits would practically be screaming “NOTICE ME!!!” at passerby’s, but the truth is… i like to blend in. I don’t want to draw any extra attention to myself. I’m pretty scared of putting myself out there, trying really hard to pull together an outfit and style myself, and then facing the possibility that someone may look at me longer than 3 seconds. While I talk about body diversity, and exclaim that “we are not invisible!” I often times hide behind clothes that don’t reflect who I am or how I feel so that I can feel exactly that: invisible.

I’m constantly reminded that self-love is a journey and even when I think I’ve got it all figured out, I peel back another layer that will expose some hang-up that I didn’t know I had. I like it like that. That  means the growth never stops, and that’s pretty cool. So I thought maybe this dress would help me a bit. I might look dressed up, but me and all these butterflies know that I blend in just perfectly with mother nature. Baby steps.

Dress – Eshakti (it is sold out at Eshakti, but is still available in their amazon store here)
Bag – Ikea
Shoes – Amazon
Belt – similar

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  1. Ray
    July 12, 2015 / 5:58 am

    I love this dress! It’s beautiful on you. One question – do you wear any kind of body shaper or Spanx-type item underneath? Your midriff looks so smooth in the dress.

    • July 12, 2015 / 2:32 pm

      I don’t wear any shape wear cause I’m not comfy in it. The fabric of the dress is thick and really lends itself to looking very smooth 🙂

  2. Melissa
    July 13, 2015 / 7:29 pm

    Gorgeous! Did you find the dress to be true to the size it says it is?

    • July 13, 2015 / 8:01 pm

      Hi Melissa! The dress is definitely true to the measurements! I always order my dresses a little short (I go for the above the knee option)! But that’s all I ever get altered 🙂

      • Melissa
        July 14, 2015 / 6:00 pm

        Thanks, Corissa!

  3. July 18, 2015 / 3:12 am

    Nice style! I like the way your shoes and belt match with the girly dress : )

  4. Anna
    July 19, 2015 / 12:07 am

    I love this outfit! Who am I kidding, I love all of your outfits! I love your style! You are gorgeous! Thank you for your pics, your words, and giving me courage to be OK with my size.

    • July 19, 2015 / 1:52 am

      Ah Anna thank YOUUUU for your kind words and support!!!

  5. Allison
    July 23, 2015 / 9:23 pm

    This dress is so fab! From one fancy girl to another – love your style here!

  6. September 20, 2015 / 3:49 am

    Great look! Love the cut and print on that dress. Looks awesome! And JUST the right amount of fancy!

  7. Nikki
    November 5, 2015 / 6:37 am

    hi Corissa! found you on Instagram & thought I’d check out your blog. love love love everything about it! your writing is witty, insteressting and well written. your photos are always amazing and you are just absolutely stunning, gorgeous, cute, beautiful … Lol you get what I’,m trying to say I guess :)) I just really adore your style and this dress OMG I just would love to wear it… I just never had the confidence, but after reading through your block, your Insta…… I think I might give it a try ( can I ask what size you re wearing as we are similar build?) Thanks for your inspiration, for being you, don’t ever change! love from Australia

    • November 5, 2015 / 4:13 pm

      Thank you for all the love Nikki! I’m wearing a size 26 in this dress!!!! <3

  8. Ink
    November 17, 2015 / 3:35 pm

    Hey there! I just happened to find your blog on a random search for plus sized clothing (you know what I’m talking about), and I have to say that you are UNDENIABLY gorgeous, and you carry yourself so well! I’m around the same size as you, and it gives me courage to go out and find some cute clothing, no matter my size and what people say to me. You look so cute in the clothes you pick out. 🙂

    • November 17, 2015 / 5:03 pm

      Thank you so much!!!! I’m so glad you found the site, I’m happy to have you here <3

  9. Karley
    March 11, 2016 / 1:25 pm

    You are just beautiful. Inside and out. I have been trolling through your blog for the past 2 hours smiling more while reading each entry. Thank you for just being.

  10. Karley
    March 11, 2016 / 1:26 pm

    That was meant to say – thank you for just being you xx

  11. Girlycameron
    May 26, 2016 / 7:54 am

    Hello Beautiful, I am youtube sub. Found this recently and can’t stop reading it, and hoping for new posts. I love this dress so much, and you look so cute in it. Hugs and kisses form the UK. X

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