When Your Clothes Reflect Your Attitude
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A couple really important things are going on in the photos above. The first is that I'm wearing clothes I love. The second is that I feel like my clothes reflect my attitude.
For a long time I've dressed in a way that many people would describe as "girly". I've written about it before, and how it isn't exactly what I think my vibe is, but there's something very safe to me about dressing feminine in my fat body. Something that makes me feel less harsh, softer, more acceptable. Maybe if I wear this flowery dress people will be less offended by my aggressive demand to be treated like my body deserves to take up the space it holds. Perhaps a cute pastel combo will sway people into thinking my husband isn't living some sad life where he has settled for a fat girl with a bad attitude when they see us together. Or my cute pink lipstick will somehow soften my naturally authoritative voice.
What I've learned from dressing that way is that it does in fact work. When I dress in feminine clothing it actually does appear to make me more acceptably fat to some people. Great. Now I know, and I can move the fuck on. That was a super boring and tiring experiment to unknowingly put myself through, and I'm hoping I don't have to test that theory ever again. I can't dress for other people's perceptions anymore. There are too many clothes to wear and too many fun things to try on, for me to keep playing it safe. And that doesn't mean I never wear frilly flowery things ever again, it just means that I don't have to. I am releasing myself from being trapped in that mind frame.
Who would have ever guessed personal style could be filled with so many hang-ups?
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You go gurlll! Fuck the haters ?
Re: ur comment on YT about hating the winter months, I had same thing. Tried those supposedly "full spectrum" lightbulbs from GE etc., which were no bueño.
Then someone turnedE on to Chromalux full-spectrum bulbs, and they have made a HUGE difference! You wouldn't think a person could get so excited about lightbulbs, but here's why:
1. They make u feel better in winter. And we need YOU to feel good, because your voice is important, and touching so many!
2. They are made w/ different technology, so the lightbulb is actually a beautiful pinkish-lavender! Pretty when visible.
3. It casts a beautiful natural light, making people, clothing and objects look warm and welcoming, een in the dead of winter. Also things appear true to color.
4. This is the bulb the Scandinavians use. And they ought know! 😉
5. Artists use these lightbulbs. And they ought know too.
6. They come is huge range, frosted and not, 3-way, downlights, chandalier lightbulbs, etc.
7. Last a really long time!
Available on Internet, that's where I buy them. Hope that helps u w/ winter blues, just felt so compelled to share that for some crazy reason! Xoxox
Karen this is so sweet thank you so much <3 I will definitely check them out!!!!!
You go girl! ??
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Loving this outfit, loving how much your are rocking this outfit, loving your stomach tattoo.
At the end of the day we all need to do what makes us happy (so long as we're not hurting anyone). I think a lot of us get bogged down in whats 'acceptable' and 'expected' we almost lose ourselves and whats important.
Ignore everyone! They don't matter. If you feel good, you look good. And you look great!!
I just seen you on a YouTube video of 10 people who became internet famous so I thought I'd Google fat girl flow. You wanna know the very first thing I noticed when I seen these few pictures of you on this page? . . . I noticed how happy you are. . . It encourages me to not put so much emphasis on how other people might "see" me (the way some clothes that you wear to hide the fat only make you look worse) There have been plenty of cute clothes I've passed on because they show my fat rolls instead of hide them, but I think I will try to get out of my comfort zone and wear something pretty for a change. You are a refreshing inspiration. ?
You go girl! I just found your blog and have to say ypu make me smile. I love your videos, your confidence, nd of course your style 🙂
Yes to being true to you! If that's wearing bubblegum pink lipstick and floral print or black lipstick and leather jackets. Or a combination of the above. Or whatever you feel like wearing, whoever you are. I'm all about celebrating your own power. Keep up the amazing work with the blog. I love when a new post comes into my life. <3
wonderful, also, so nice because as a heavier person I'm supposed to be "FUN FUN FUN". So wear a polka dot dress and you are basically a fat clown, and people are positive toward you. Throw on just a Tshirt and some jeans and you are just a fat slob. Everyone else can run to the store, with say a fun tshirt and jeans, but the fat lady does and.. forget it. Boots? oh they aren't fun rain boots with cats all over them? They are serious nice boots? No no no no no... not allowed! Also presents, the family and friends love to give funny hats, crazy socks, and dresses that are VIVID often with, yes cats. No we don't always want to dress like we're quirky and FUN FUN FUN.